In the start of term assembly last Thursday, I spoke to the boys about the importance of respect: showing respect to one another, respect for each other’s things, and respect for their wider environment. I could not possibly have expected that they would get such a lesson in it as we have experienced over the last week.
With the death of Her Late Majesty, we have seen a remarkable outpouring of love and affection, and it is clear that this is strongly rooted in respect. Some of the comments and tributes from world leaders reveal the enormous respect the Queen commanded, even globally. We have also seen a touching, and perhaps enhanced, respect for her son as he becomes King Charles III.
Pilgrims’ boys have had their own opportunity this week to demonstrate their respect, primarily by visiting the Cathedral and signing the books of condolence. All members of staff I have spoken to have been universal in their praise for the boys and ?their manner: I am very, very proud of them.
Over the last couple of days I, like many, have been drawn to the scenes from Westminster Hall. The phrase ‘paying their respects’ has been heard repeatedly, but what does this mean? In the interviews with those who have waited patiently in those long queues, ?people have universally spoken of the quietness in the hall, and the powerful impact they felt as they passed by the Queen’s coffin. We see a salute, a dip of the head, perhaps a moment of prayer. This is respect visibly demonstrated, and it is powerful.
But it is also clear that this respect is not limited to what mourners wish to show to the Queen as they file past the catafalque. There is also a sense of communal respect; each person waiting patiently whilst others take their moment to pause, collectively ensuring the atmosphere which allows the individual to pay their respects. Furthermore, many have spoken of the goodwill and camaraderie found in the long queues to get into Westminster Hall (we British do queues well!). No sign of arguing, or (heaven forbid) queue-jumping; lots of moral support and friendship. Again, this is rooted in respect – the willingness to show others the kindness and decency that we all hope should be a normal part of life.
I sincerely hope that this is not just a passing phase which will fade with the end of this period of National Mourning. This time has revealed many things about who we are as a nation, and has given us reason to pause and contemplate, perhaps most importantly on the intrinsic importance of this core value: RESPECT. Yes, some earn it through extraordinary feats, but it is also moving, heart-warming, and inspiring to see it freely given to strangers. We must all remember the power of this. It is important.
Alistair Duncan
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